Author Q&A with Dr. Mary Helen Hensley
Why did you write this book?
This book was divinely guided by David and my angelic team. This book is part of my soul’s purpose here. From reading this book, you will see all the synchronicity that led up to the writing of this book. David gave me lots of signs that assisted in me following my intuition and writing this book. Grief tore my life apart and stripped me off everything I once knew. Grief stripped me of who I thought I was and what I thought I knew about the world we live in.
Through being stripped of everything, I had a chance to rebuild myself and find out who I truly was. Something which I am now eternally grateful for.
One day I chose ”me”, and that was where the magic happened. You could say I surrendered.
It was not easy, and at times it would have been easier to cave in and give up. But I had magic right beside me, pushing me on every step of the way. I had my beloved Davey, and he was going to do everything to show me he was still around guiding me on this new journey.
I have grown so much as a person and learned so much about my life and life, in general. For so long, I felt so lost, alone and honestly, I did not want to play a part in this cruel world. A world that had stripped me off everything and taken my David.
Through resilience, I have grown through all of this and completely changed my outlook on life. I have a newfound love for life that I never had before. I view every day as precious and something that it should be cherished.
This book is intended to uplift and inspire others to seek their own inner strength and courage in the face of adversity. To use my story to empower others to never give up hope, even when faced with the worst challenges. To enlighten others that miracles do happen when we have hope. To show others, we are so guided, loved and protected by our past on loved ones.
Everything I have done, you can do too. This does not just have to relate to grief, it can be any troubling situation in your life.
Once you choose ”you”, you are on the path to discovery, and you can welcome miracles into your life.
Everything comes back to you, and through my own self-healing journey, I have become fascinated with how the mind works.
Through my own journey, I believe we have everything within us to heal and grow as a person. The moment we choose ourselves, we welcome extensive experiences and opportunities into our life.
Our mind is such a powerful tool, and once we figure out how to navigate it, we can really step into our own and claim our power back.
Early on in my journey of grief and loss, it became apparent that writing helped ease my pain and release some of my anguish.
Early on, this book was only planned for my own personal healing. My intuition and signs from David led me to believe though it had a bigger purpose. I needed to use my experience and healing journey to help others.
What surprised you the most as you researched or wrote it?
As I wrote the book, it brought me to a deep state of reflection. It brought me so much healing. I had to go back and sit with everything that happened. It brought me back to the part of me that never thought I was going to overcome this. The part of me that was broken beyond repair. The part of me that could not see a life without David, that was so consumed by grief and loss in this world. It was very empowering and uplifting to go back and revisit those parts with my new sense of purpose and understanding of the world around us. I felt so proud of myself and inspired because If I could do it, so could others. It made me feel in awe of myself and how far I have come and grown as a person. To say I prefer myself now than before David’s death sounds a bit mad, but It is true. I feel at home and I feel like I have a purpose. I have developed a newfound relationship with myself and a new connection with David.
After writing this book, I was able to see the natural flow of my life and all the synchronicity that occurred. Before I was so stuck in my grief it was hard to see all the signs David was showing me. It made me feel so blessed and grateful, even though David was gone in the physical sense he always had a plan and guided this new journey I was embarking on.
What is the most important lesson or message readers will get from it?
That our past on loved ones never leave us and will do anything to connect with us. We are so protected and supported always. That no matter how broken you are, you can overcome any challenge, that hope will always prevail.
That when you put the work into yourself the whole world around, you will change. Everything you need to heal, and grow is within you. Do not ever underestimate how powerful and strong you are.
Miracles can and do happen all around us, every day is a miracle. Do not ever stop believing in them. Your belief alone is welcoming miracles into your life.
Did writing this book change your life in any way?
This book brought me so much healing, and it is my pleasure to share my story with others to help spread hope, inspiration and love. The book made me feel so grateful at the newfound connection I have with David. I just feel so in awe of the world we life in and the magic that surrounds us.
I never, in a million years, thought I would ever say something like that. I feel like I had done a full 360 in my life. I feel like I am exactly where I am supposed to be.
Every day I get up knowing that there is a plan for me. I feel connected, protected and supported always knowing David continues to guide me in this life.
What do you hope will come from others reading it?
I hope people put that book down and feel a sense of awe of the magic that surrounds us all each day. That it uplifts people and inspires them to never ever give up hope. Life can throw anything at you, but never give up hope that your situation can improve or that a miracle can occur. I never ever gave up hope that would find Davey, even when people thought I was mad and that I was inflicting more pain on myself.
I never gave up hope, life has taken everything else from me, but one thing it was not going to take was my hope. I hope that this inspires others to never give up, your miracle may be just around the corner.
I hope that my story lights something in others to help them start their own healing journey. I am as unique as every single person who reads this book. Everything I have done; they can do too. I feel so much love thinking that this book may help others.
For people who are grieving, I hope it shows them that love never dies. It knows no boundaries or depths. A symbolic part of the book is the poem about a dragonfly; a water beetle who transforms into a beautiful dragonfly. How wonderful.
Just like our loved ones, the water beetle had transformed, gone to a new home.
Our loved ones would love to come down and tell us they are ok, but they cannot. They may be gone in the physical sense, but their soul does not ever leave us. Your relationship continues with them; it just takes a different form. We live in a world where we are continually seeking logic to back everything, ok. When our loved ones send us signs, we must believe, trust and have faith. When we open ourselves up to this magic can really occur.
Most importantly, I hope that it empowers people to realize we have everything we need within ourselves to heal and grow as people.
In the world, we live in, we often seek everything from outside of us. We need people to fix us, we need others to validate us when really everything we need is within each one of us. You are special because you are you.